Another flavor of the sexual hangups that women experience is the mama generated.  For what ever reason, mothers seem to be able to generate sexual guilt trips in their daughters regardless of how old they are.

I find it to be extremely frustrating that a 60 year old woman can be totally controlled by her 85 year old mother.  And, you won’t realize this hangup until you begin to get intimate with the woman.  She will then announce that she doesn’t feel right about what ever you are doing.  And, unfortunately, there is nothing that you can do to change the way that she feels.  The only way to move beyond this is to marry her and hope for the best.

Caveat emptor.

No, this isn’t the title to a song from the 60s but it does present a very real question.  Not only do women need to ask that question but so do men.

Sometimes a woman will give into the passion of the moment and really enjoy herself.  But then, the next day, she will feel horrible guilty about what she did the night before.  The simplest way to prevent this from happening is to make sure you are both ready to be intimate and not just caught up in the passion of the moment.

Enough said.

It is not uncommon for a Juvenal  female to experience sexual encounters with older family members or trusted friends.

These older people, both male and female, feel that they are helping the young woman with some aspect of her sexual development by what they do to her.  But, in reality, they are not.  In fact, they actually cause more sexual hangups.

Now, this one is tricky.  She may tell you about her past sexual encounters but that is highly unlikely.  Chances are that you won’t discover her sexual hangups until after you are married.  Up until that time, she will pretend to enjoy your sexual request while all the time feeling dirty.

All you can do is to watch for subtle signs and go from there.

I work with a woman who was raised as a strict Catholic.  She married a man who was also raised as a strict Catholic.  So, when they got married, they agreed that sex was for procreation only.  This meant that they slept in separate bedrooms and only joined for procreation, which in this case was 4 times in 11 years!  Yikes!!!

Eventually, she divorced her husband.  But, suffice it to say, this woman has some major sexual hangups.

I mention this story to all of my dates early on in our relationship.  If they are shocked, then I am some what relieved.  If they are not, then I am very concerned and wonder if they too have sexual hangups.

Regardless, be sure to check their religious upbringing to make sure that they are somewhat normal.