One of the issues that I have had to deal with is children.  Or more to the point, do I want a woman who still has children at home?  My initial thought is “no.”

Now, it is not that I don’t like children.  I love children.   It is just that they complicate an already complicated situation.  Not only are you having to learn a new life partner, you are also having to address the daily issues that come with children.

And, I don’t know which is worse, older children or younger children.  Certainly younger children are going to garner more attention from your spouse than older children.  And, that is only natural.  But, older children are more likely to be hostile towards the newest member of the family.  Either way, you are viewed as an unwelcome outsider.

Unfortunately, this is not a rule, it is a norm.  So, it is conceivable that you could find a woman with children that will totally accept you as a part of their family. And, it could work out very well. The problem is, finding that accepting family.

And, while women with grown children are not exempt from problems, at least her children are living their life away from home.

But, the bottom line is that it is a tough call.