Is the relationship positive or negative?  That is a question that you need to ask yourself.  A relationship should be a positive event.  If it is not, then you need to move on.

All relationships have assets and liabilities.  If it is a good relationship, the assets will outweigh the liabilities.  Your partners strengths will off set your weaknesses and vise-a-verse.

But, if it is a bad relationship, the liabilities will exceed the national debt!  And, bad relationships don’t get better, they only get worse.

So, it is important to examine the relationship and asses what you bring to the relationship and what your partner brings to the relationship.  And, if you are lucky, you will be able to make that assessment quickly.

I just met a woman with dentures.  I guess I had never thought about dating a woman with dentures.  I suppose it is OK but I hadn’t really thought about it.  This will take some time.

I recently ended a relationship with a “Drama Queen”.  In case you have never met a drama queen, they spin every day events into major crises.   Talk about a roller coaster ride.

Whenever anyone would ask me how we were getting along, I would honestly say that I didn’t know.  With an active imagination, she could turn my “I’m tired and going to bed” statement into a declaration of loathing.  So, I could never really tell what was going on with us.

Ordinarily, I would have avoided a relationship with a drama queen, but this one slipped past me until we were several months into the relationship.  Fortunately, I managed to get out of it without any collateral damage.

I really miss my late wife.  She was so normal.

One woman posted pictures of herself working in her garden.  Her hair was all sweaty and stringy and she had sweat all over her face.

And while that kind of a photo might spell “love” for some people, it didn’t for me.  Sorry.

One woman, that I was matched with on eHarmony, posted a picture of herself standing next to her sons Harley Davidson.

Now, the Harley was very nice looking but I am not sure what that has to do with her.  After all, it was her son’s bike and not hers.  Maybe she wanted the world to know that since her son rides a Harley, she must be cool.

But, more to the point, I looked at the garage that that Harley was parked in and said “Oh My!!”  That garage was so full of stuff that you could never get a car in there.  And, if the garage is that full, what must the rest of the house be like.

Photos, what were they thinking?!!!

One of the things that I find annoying is women who won’t post a picture of themselves on the dating website that they use.  This tells me that these women have a very low self esteem.

Granted, not every woman is a beauty queen.  And, not every man is a Prince Valiant either. But, that doesn’t mean that these “nons” can’t find each other and be happy.

Unfortunately, “non-photo” women seem to think that if they write a super 600 word essay, they will land a hunk.  And, they have identified these hunks because they have looked at the hunks photos on the dating site and not their 600 word essays.

And, of course, these women seem to think that after the hunk has read their 600 word essay, he will want them no matter what they look like.  This is their fantasy.

But, this is not reality.  The reality is that we all look at the pictures.  Men and women alike look at the pictures. And those of us who are well grounded, tend to date within our social circle.  While those who are dreamers, tend to look outside their circle and into the dream circle hoping that Prince Valiant will behold their 600 word essay and take them away.  Well, that doesn’t happen in real life.

In short, no picture equals “LOOSER”.

I once knew a woman about my age whose late husband  worked the night shift and did so by choice.

Now, I can understand that some body has to work the night shift, but, if you have seniority and still choose to works nights, maybe something is wrong.  Maybe he is working nights to avoid his wife.

Depending on the night shift schedule, he could avoid all contact with his wife during the week.and only have to deal with her on a limited basis on the weekends.  After all, when she is home, he would either be at work or sleeping, so there would be very little exposure to her. Bottom line, it sounds like they didn’t get along for whatever reason.

So, if you should encounter a woman whose husband worked nights by choice, warning bells should go off in your head.

Caveat Emptor.

In my quest for chemistry, I dated several women, knowing that sooner of later, I would rediscover “chemistry”.  Well, that moment came when I went on a date with a woman who was a long ways away from my home.

The moment that I saw her, I knew that we had chemistry.  I saw it flash in her eyes, and she in mine.  We had chemistry!

At the end of the date, I kissed her goodnight.  It was electric!  She stuck her tongue in my mouth.

But, the important thing was rediscovering “chemistry”.  Yes!  It is very real!  Now, to find chemistry locally.

I dated about a dozen women before I realized that something was wrong.  While these women were nice enough, there just seemed to be something missing.  What was it?

I had to reflect back to 40 years prior to remember what was missing.  I finally realized that there was no chemistry!

Yes!  Chemistry!  The women were nice enough but there was no chemistry between us.  There was no magic, no spark.  But, was this my imagination?  Does chemistry occur in time?  Is it something that I have to work at?

Well, these were all very good questions.  Unfortunately, I didn’t have any answers. So, I looked on line for articles about chemistry and found several.

According to the articles that I read, chemistry is very real.  It is natures way of steering you to a mate who is genetically compatible.  And, if chemistry doesn’t happen in the first couple of dates, it isn’t there.

So, chemistry is very real but I have not found it.  And will I recognize if I do find it?  Well, I will just have to keeping looking and experimenting.