My ex is gay.  That seems to be a frequent response that I get from women.

The first time that  woman told me that her husband left her because he was gay, I was shocked.  But as I dated more women, I discovered that this was more common than I had imagined.

Now, it could be that gay men were afraid to come out years ago but not now.  So, those who were living a lie are started to come clean.  Or, it could be that saying your husband is gay, is a convenient excuse for a failed marriage.

But, either way, they need to be tested for HIV.