When you first start to date someone, the relationship is neutral and undefined.   But since relationships are never static,  that neutral status only lasts for a few dates.  After that, one of three things will happen.

If things work out right, you will become romantically involved.  But, the more that you date someone without romance developing, the more likely it is that the two of you will just become friends.  And, if you fail to become romantic or friends, then the relationship will just end.

So, if you are looking for a loving relationship, it needs to happen in the first couple of dates.  If it doesn’t, then the romantic relationship is doomed.

I once dated a woman whose life was under the total control of her older sister.  Since the woman was 60, I speculate that at her age, she will never have a life of her own.  I passed on her.

Well, after she explained to me her fears of relationships and after I told her that I was interested in a serious relationship, she seemed to be reassured.  And so, I thought that the relationship would be moving forward.

And at first, it seemed like it was.  But, two dates later and she was back to being totally frigged.  So, even though I spent 8 hours with her today, the closest that I got to romance was holding her hand for 30 seconds.

And, even though she said that she liked holding hands, you couldn’t prove it by me.  She resisted all attempts for the remainder of the evening.  Then, when I took her home, I thought that she might invite me in, but she didn’t.  So, I gave her a quick kiss and headed for home.

I don’t think that she has a romantic bone in her body.  If she is cold and disinterested now, what would it be like if I married her.  Once again, I think that it is time to cut my losses and move on.

I just saw a picture the other day of a woman who claimed to be 52.  Well, that was hard to believe.  She looked to be at least 62 if not 72!  I guess if she is only 52, then she has had a very hard life.

Over the past year, I have dated a number of women with whom I have had chemistry.  But, unfortunately, we were simply not compatible.  And, I have dated a number of women who were highly compatible but there was no chemistry.  So, do you choose the one who you have the hots for or the one you can live with?

In her profile, one woman indicated that she likes to ride her bike.  In fact, she said that she even had a special trailer built so that she could haul her Sousaphone behind her bike.

Well OK!  I suppose the trailer is better than carrying it on her shoulders.

I think that I will pass on that one.

In one of my more unusual  profile photos, the woman only posted a picture of the back of her head.  At least, I think it was the back of her head.  Anyway, while I was amused at the unusual nature of the photo, without an actual photo of her face, I am not inclined to inquire further.

I hope that she is trying out the site for free and not actually paying for it because she certainly isn’t taking it seriously.

I started a dialog a few months ago with a  woman who was a flight attendant.

This was a first for me.  Her schedule only allowed for her to be home for a couple of days a week.  And, those days varied.

Soul search time.  Did I want to be with a woman who would only be home a couple of days a week?  No.  After all, this arrangement wouldn’t be much different than living alone.

So, I passed on her.

Well, I picked her up for Sunday dinner and we headed for a local restaurant.  And, while the dinner time conversation was very nice, we were both looking forward to having some serious one-on-one time.

After dinner, we headed back to her house for some coffee and desert and serious conversation.  That is when we learned that we were both looking for a serious relationship and marriage.  She was relieved because she had been burned in the past and was afraid to get involved in a relationship if it wasn’t going to be serious.

Knowing this bit of information made a big difference for me.  I now understood why she was so withdrawn towards me; she was afraid of getting hurt again and since she didn’t know my true intentions, it just seemed best to be reserved.

Hopefully, this relationship can now go forward.

Well, after that very cold New Years Eve, I was certain that the relationship was over, though I wasn’t sure that it actually got started.  And, when I got an email from her thanking me for the holidays, it led me to believe that she was saying good bye.

So, I was surprised when I got another email from her a couple of days later.  Frustrated, I wrote back saying that I wasn’t sure whether she really liked me.  I immediately got an email from her saying that she definitely like me and that she was very interested in a relationship with me.  And, she said that we needed to spend time talking and getting know each other.  So, we agreed to meet for dinner on Sunday and then to have some time set aside just to talk.

Well, it seems that things were starting to look up in the relationship.