Most of the better dating sites offer the profile option of what you are looking for in a relationship. For some women, they are only looking for friendship. Others are looking for a traveling companion. Still others are looking for a serious long term relationship.
Unfortunately, some sites like Christian Mingle do not offer that option. So, if you don’t ask the person directly what they are looking for in a relationship, you may end up wasting your time on a relationship with diminished expectations.