Well, since Sunday had gone very well, I expected the same on New Years Eve.  And, even though I would be babysitting my granddaughter, I didn’t think that it would be a problem.

As soon as my date arrived, we headed out to get a couple of movies that would be acceptable to the three of us.  When we returned, I popped in a movie and sat down on the couch.  My date, in turn, took up a position at the other end of the couch and not next to me.

Thinking that she wanted to be closer to the TV, I moved next to her.  And, all seemed OK until we were almost finished with the movie.  That is  when she decided to sit some place else.

Then, after the movie, she elected to spend time with my grand daughter.  And, that was fine I guess.  But when the ball dropped at midnight and everyone was kissing, my date was on the other side of the room and not really interested in me.

Well OK!  I guess this relationship is pretty much finished.

I tossed and turned all of that night in bed.  How could she be so uninterested in me and yet, still want to be with me?  Well, since she was going to go to church with me and then have dinner with me, I figured I would end it that afternoon.

But, after dinner, she took me by surprise.  She was actually warm and affectionate.  Wow!!  Just when I thought that there was no hope for the relationship, hope magically appeared.  Maybe things would work out between us after all.

Well, since she seemed so cold and since she was going to be gone for the next several days, I assumed that we were finished.  But, when she returned, she contacted me.  Well, that is nothing but confusion.  So, we decided to go out the next day.

The next day, I picked her up and we went shopping since we both had gift cards to spend.  With lunch and an afternoon of shopping behind us, we called it a day.

When I took her home, instead of the usually obligatory hug and kiss, she actually invited me into her house.  WOW!!  Maybe this relationship is actually going some place!!

When I got inside, she showed me around the house.  Then, afterwards, she offered me a seat on the sofa.  Thinking that she was going to join me, I sat in the middle.  Well, she too sat down but at the end with her feet facing me.  It was a position that would be easy to defend should I make any amorous advances.

When I saw the defensive position that she assumed, I gave it up and decided to go home.  Once again, she managed a hug and a kiss.

Well, Christmas Eve came and so did my dinner guest.  But, since she had to leave early the next day for a four day trip, she only stayed for a short time.  Yet, in spite of the number of times that we had been together, she still limited our interaction to a short hug and a kiss.  And, since she was still very very cold, I decided, once again, to cut my losses and move on, as she is just not interested in me.

Sunday’s arrangement was to meet at church and then have dinner at my house afterwards.  And, when we met at church, she greeted me with a hug and a kiss.  Well OK!

After church, we had dinner with her and my daughter and friend.  And, it seemed to go well.  But, after dinner, everyone left including my date.  She had things to do and couldn’t stay but said that she would be over on Christmas Eve.   Well OK!!!  She is sounding like she is actually interested in me.

So, my Saturday morning phone call announced that my date had been surfing the web and had found a gift that I had been looking for.  Well, OK.  So, I felt obligated to ask her to go shopping with me once again.

And, since I had to do a lot of running around, I pick her up at her house again.  Well, we had lunch, went shopping, ate supper and then back home.  And, once again, I figured that we were finished.  But then she asked to go to church with me on Sunday.  So, once again, she seemed like she was interested in me.  And again, a forced hug and a kiss and she was out of the car.  And, I wondered what Sunday would bring.

With the shopping date set, I picked her up at her house.  Since I had not so much as gotten a hug on the first date,  I decided to change that by giving her a hug and a kiss when I picked her up.  And, she seemed receptive to that.  Well OK, maybe I had miss judged her.

But, when we got to the mall, I thought that it would be nice to hold hands.  And, she tolerated that with the operative word being “tolerated”.   However, when the time was opportune, she broke the hand hold.  And, since she didn’t reestablish it, I assumed that she was not comfortable with it.

When I dropped her off at her house, there was no invite to go inside.  There was just a forced hug and kiss and then out of the car.   Well, OK, I guess she is not really interested in me.  And, I expected that the relationship was over.  And, I was ready to cut my loses and move on.

But then, two days later, I received a call from her, which totally blew me out of the water.

I recently dated a woman who was, well, frigged.  After a lack lust first date (no chemistry), I decided that it wasn’t going to happen.  So, the following weekend, I opted not to be with her.

The week after, I received an email from her telling me that she really enjoyed my company and hoped to see me again.  Since there was no chemistry and she seemed really distant, I was surprised at her interest.

Perhaps, she was tired on the first date or perhaps was not up to pare.  So, against my better judgement, I asked her out again to give her a second chance so to speak.  With a plan to go shopping together, the date was set.

I have dated several women whom I just couldn’t figure out.  They were nice enough and pleasant to be with.  Yet, they just didn’t seem to be “into” me.  And, a good night kiss was more of a chore for them than a desire.  So, are they just being modest or are they really not interested in romance?  I don’t know.

Most of the better dating sites offer the profile option of what you are looking for in a relationship.  For some women, they are only looking for friendship.  Others are looking for a traveling companion.  Still others are looking for a serious long term relationship.

Unfortunately, some sites like Christian Mingle do not offer that option.  So, if you don’t ask the person directly what they are looking for in a relationship, you may end up wasting your time on a relationship with diminished expectations.