Saying “I love you” is a risk. If the recipient of your affection doesn’t respond likewise, you are left, well, hanging. And, that silence can be deafening.
But, take heart. Either she is overwhelmed with your interest or she is not interested in your affection. Either way, the relationship is becoming more defined for better or for worse.
Once you say “I love you” you are pretty much committed to the relationship and expected to repeat it many many times over. So, think before you speak because you are taking the relationship to a new level.
One of the first women that I dated lived in Cincinnati, a mere 6 hours away. Fortunately, I realized that the distance would be a factor, thus, the relationship would not be viable.
But then, I met a woman who lived in Chicago. I could be to her house in less that 3 hours. And, she came to Grand Rapids every other weekend to visit her mother, so, it is not like I would be doing all of the driving.
Then, I met a woman who was only 2 hours away. That seemed even better. But, after making the trip a few times, that 2 hours got to be old really quick. And, since there was no in between place to meet, I did all of the driving.
Now, I am dating a woman on the other side of Grand Rapids. And while I don’t really like the drive, I also realize that there is no one within walking distance of my house, so, I accept the drive and am glad that it is only 30 minutes.
When I first stared dating, I was amazed at the number of women who were married to gay men. But, after a while, I came to realize that saying your spouse was gay was the perfect excuse for a failed marriage.
After all, if your spouse was gay, there was nothing that you could do to change that orientation. Thus, you had nothing to do with the failed marriage. It is as if the marriage never happened.
Unfortunately, the “gay” excuse is all too common so beware of anyone using it.
If you say “I love you” and the feeling is not right or the dynamics are off, those words will sound like a cheap pickup line and nothing more. And, instead of bring you closer, they will only weaken the relationship. Timing is everything so be very careful.