When I first started dating, my women friends told me that I would be a great catch for some lucky woman.  I am dependable, have a good job with benefits, no bad habits, I am loving, kind and generous and I had a very successful 37 year marriage.

Yet, the women that I date don’t seem to be impressed with this.  In fact, they almost consider my assets to be liabilities.  Go figure.

Now that you have the 4 personality types, you need to understand how it works.  You may say that I don’t fall into any of those categories,  and to an extent, you are right.

So arrange the four types in a quadrant like graph.  In the lower left is the Analytic with the Driver in the  lower right.  The horizontal axis is decision making speed; slow on the left and fast on the right.

In the upper left is the Amiable with the Expressive in the upper right.  The vertical axis is people skills with the lower left being minimal with the upper left being great.

Everyone, for the most part, is a mixture of all four types.  It is just that you will have one personality type that is more prominent over the others. So, someone who is very analytical, can also have great people skills and be aggressive when given an assignment.  But their prominent personality type is still Analytic.

And no, you can’t classify yourself because you can never be totally honest.

Driver make quick decisions and are not a people person.  For the Driver there is only black or white, no gray.  So, the Driver does not have any undecided issues.  Plus, the Driver is “work, work, work”.

So, when it comes to social issues, the Driver has all of the answers.  And, when it comes to work, get your ass in gear, the day is wasting.

So, if you are not comfortable with being told what to do and what to think and expected to work your fingers to a bone, pass on the Driver.  If you don’t meet their standards, you will be considered to be weak and indecisive.

Been there and done that.

Like the Driver, the Expressive makes decisions very quickly.  But, unlike the Driver, the Expressive is a people person.

These are the people who are fanatical about global warming and recycling and, they expect you to share their views.  They have the vision for the great society and if you would only follow them, they would change the world.

So, if you are considering joining this personality type, plan on donating a whole lot of time to various projects and causes.  But, in the end, unless you are an Expressive, you will never be truly accepted.  Sorry.

Of the 4 personality types, the Amiables are the laid back, people persons.  They don’t care about what happens and when, they only care about, well, people.  So, these people are the compassionate ones and most likely to get along with everybody.  However, these people are not project oriented and do not work well with schedules.