Most everyone has their idea of what their ideal mate would be like.  Giddy girls dream of handsome movie stars or hunky athletes, while boys envision beautiful fashion models with wonderful personalities and ample assets.

For example, one middle aged woman wrote that she was looking for a doctor who made $200,000 a year.   And while her dream is possible, it is not very realistic.  Likewise, a guy may be looking for woman to share his interest in mountain climbing.  But finding someone like that on a general dating site might be almost impossible.  So, the trick is to determine what is realistic and what is not realistic and what is “settling”.