Dating over the holidays can be a real challenge.  Not only do you have social commitments to keep, so does the person that you are dating.  So, it may be very difficult for schedules to connect.  But, be flexible and try to make the best of it.

Any kind of relationship requires emotional commitments on the part of all parties.   This is true no only for lover but also for friends.   If there is no emotional  commitment, then you are merely two known entities and nothing more.

But for lovers, emotional commitment is vital.  For the very act of committing is the act of giving your self to that other person unconditionally.  Without that emotional commitment, you are just a self centered parasites who are only using the other person for your own selfish needs.

And, without emotional commitment, love can never develop.

I am always amazed as to just how fast some women can eat.  While I realize that I am a slow eater, some of these women eat like it is their only meal in a week.  Wow!!

Are these women starving themselves in order to keep their weight down?  If they are, chances are good that they will eventually blow up like a Macy’s balloon.  So, beware.

Is she really busy?  That is a difficult question to answer.  I mean, people these days are quite active so it is possible that she is busy.  If she tells you that she is busy next Saturday but offers Friday night or Sunday afternoon, then, she is probably busy.  But, if she just says that she is busy on Saturday with no indication of interest or alternate days, then chances are good that she doesn’t want to go out with you.

But, to be on the safe side, you might want to ask her out several times.  And then if you get the same “no” with no offer of interest, move on.  She is just not interested in you.

I always like to go out for dinner on a first date.  Not only is it a safe environment, but you can also see her eating habits first hand.

Did she order a steak?  That is good.  Did she order the fish?  Well, OK.  Did she order the Tofu and Eggplant stir fry?  Maybe you need to talk.

And while diet is not a show stopper, it might create complications.

While not every woman is into selling products, there are a lot of them who are.  Be it vitamins, cosmetics, or soap, this is an activity that can interfere with your relationship, particularly if you don’t believe in the products.  So, if you can’t tolerate this activity, then you need to move on.  Otherwise, grin and bear it.

Well, she was too busy to see me on Saturday.  And, she decided to skip dinner with me on Sunday.  I guess she doesn’t really miss me.

I  think that this relationship is finished.  I am not going to call her any more.  She can call me  if she is really interested in a relationship, but I doubt that I will hear from her again.

What is her cause?  My that, I mean, what is she passionate for?  Rescue dogs?  Children in Haiti? Clean water?

At her age, chances are good that she is involved in some charitable activity.  And while this is not bad per se,  it could create problems if it consumes her life.  So beware.

Perhaps I should name this “Frigged And Uninterested.”  I suspect that this relationship has reached the breaking point as in “we are done.”

I called her several times on Thursday night and even left a message.  Then later when I called, the line was busy.  I guess she had someone more important to talk to than me.

I called her on Friday night and left a message.  After several tries,  I was finally able to get a hold of her but she didn’t sound excited to hear from me.

When I asked her about going out this weekend, she said that she was busy doing her taxes and hoped that I understood.  Well, I do understand I guess.  But, since I have never felt any enthusiasm toward me in the first place, it is hard to tell what she is really feeling.

I guess I will just wait it out and see what happens.  Live and learn I guess.

I once dated a woman who was under the total control of her mother.  The woman was 60 and her mother was 85.  I had to wonder what the woman will do when her mother passes on?