About Beaufort

After Kathy, my wife of 37 years, passed away, I had to make a choice between being single for the next 20-30 years or finding a new wife. Since my first marriage was wonderful, I decided to try again.

Interested Or Desperate?!

Sorting out the women who are truly interested and those who are desperate can be a challenge.  I guess you could say that they are both interested but for different reasons.  One is interested in you because they love you and the other is interested in you because you are male, alive and heterosexual. Though the last adjective is negotiable.

Still, it is hard to decided.  Do they love you for who you are or what you are?  Only time will tell.

Do You Believe In Premarital Sex?

Do you believe in premarital sex?  That is a question that was asked of me on the third date.

Immediately, warning bells went off in my head.  How I answered the question could determine if there would be a fourth date.  Was she asking me about my moral convictions or was she suggesting something else?  I didn’t know, so, I took the honest approach and told her just what I thought.

No Photo? She May Be Married.

If a woman refuses to post a photo on her profile, it may be because she is married.  That’s right, just because a woman is on a dating website doesn’t mean that she is single.  She may be getting ready for a divorce and wanting to look over the field.  Or, she may be just looking for an ego boost.  Either way, posting a photo is risky because someone might recognize her.

So, beware of anyone unwilling to post a photo of themselves.

Unaffectionate Or Uninterested?

I recently dated a woman who just didn’t seem interested in me.  So, after the first date, I was surprised to get an email from her saying that she really wanted to see me again.

On the second date, I was surprised to get the same “cool” response from her. Yet, again, she was interested in seeing me again.

Having verbally expressed her interest in me, I had to wonder if she is just not a physical person or if she is being guarded.  I am confused but I will just have to play it by ear.

Does She Own A Business?

Does she own a business?  If so, you need to understand that business owner have a unique personality.  They tend to be a little more focused and hard working.  So, don’t be surprised if their business takes top priority.

Religious Information.

If you provide too much religious information, one of two things will happen.  Either prospects will dismiss you as a religious fanatic or you will attract other religious fanatics.  So, choose your information carefully.

I Don’t Smoke.

Recently, I read a woman’s profile.  In it, she claimed that she didn’t smoke.  Yet, her only profile pictures shows her holding a cigarette.  Maybe she has quit since the photo was taken.  Or, maybe she was hold the cigarette for a friend while the picture was being taken.  After all, no one ever lies while filling out these profiles.

How Eager Are They?

Beware of women that are too eager to have a relationship with you.  If, after the first date, they are talking long term relationships, it may be that they are desperate. In such cases, you meet their qualifications of being male, alive and heterosexual.

While there is nothing wrong with a woman being overly eager to see you, just beware and proceed cautiously.

It Didn’t Work Out.

I recently sent a prospective date an email of interest.  But, she emailed me back and told me that she was seeing someone.

Well, I can understand that.  After all, things happen.

But then, two weeks later, she was reviewing my profile.  I guess Mr. Wonderful turned out to be a toad.

While I appreciated her honesty, she should have waited to give me the heave ho until the relationship was a little more stable.  I think that she was dreaming with her first encounter with Mr. Wonderful.  But, regardless, if she is humble, she can still pick up with the folks that she rejected.