No one likes getting dumped by their boyfriend but it does happen whether we like it or not.  When women get dumped by their boyfriends, they go into mourning.  They call all of their girls friends and tell them all about the breakup and how they were treated so unfairly.  And, their girlfriends console them and agree with their assessment of the situation.  They mope, they cry, they denounce all men as evil people.  And, they swear that they will never ever date again.

No one likes getting dumped by their girlfriend but it does happen whether we like it or not.  When men  get dumped by their girlfriends, they respond by getting right back into the dating circuit.  They don’t spend weeks talking about the hurt and disappointment with their friends and they don’t cry about it.  They are men and men are tough.  Besides, crying never fixes anything.  After all, when you get thrown from a horse, you get right back on it again.

I was Mr. Summer, 2011, aka, a “boy toy”.  I replaced Mr. Summer, 2010 who was also a “boy toy”.

I was new at dating since my wife passed away and didn’t realize that there were women like that.

We had so much fun together.  White Sox games, concerts, bike rides to the gardens, dining downtown.  She swept me off of my feet.  I was in love and ready to quit my job and move to Chicago.

But, when school started in the fall and she went back to teaching, she no longer had time for me.  By the end of October, she told me that I was becoming a burden for her and she wanted me to leave.  So, I left.

I wonder how Mr. Summer 2012 is doing?

I  once dated a woman who was sure that God had brought us together and that we were meant for each other.  Then, one night after we had supper, she announced that we were through so I was a little surprised.  But, whatever!  So, I wished her the best on finding some one and retrieved her slippers from the closet.

Life goes on.

A woman that I work with was complaining that the guy she was dating claimed to be 55.  In actuality, she found out that he was 69!  So, I asked her how old she claimed to be and she said “42”.  In all actuality, she is 52.

I guess there is no honor amongst thieves or liars.

To my amazement, some women are only interested in having pen pals.  They exchange emails and carry on lite conversations.  But, they don’t seem to be interested in meeting.

One woman, in particular, was very excited at the prospect of knowing me.  She quickly breezed through the dating web site questions. She then sent me her email address and telephone number before we had even met even though most women are hesitant to do that.  In fact, she was constantly sending me her email address and telephone number.  But, when I suggested that we meet for supper, I never heard from her again.

Go figure.

If you discover that you have chemistry with someone, that is great!  It is exciting!  It is electric!  It is certain disaster if you are not a good match!  That’s right, just because you have chemistry with some one doesn’t mean that you are meant for each other.  It only means that you are a good match genetically.

While chemistry may mean that you will have healthy babies, it doesn’t mean that you will be able to stand each other.  Making love may occupy an hour of your day and that is fine.  It is the other 23 hours that you have to worry about.

So, don’t let chemistry lead you down the wrong path.  Think with your mind and not your glands.

Love at first sight is very real.  It is also called “chemistry”.  Or, natures way of telling you that this person is genetically compatible.

While I think that the eHarmony web site does a good job, it does have its quirks.  And, some of these quirks drive me absolutely crazy.  One of the most annoying is the disappearing members.

Every now and then, an individual, who has been posted to my account, will mysteriously disappear!  At first, I thought that I was just imagining that the person ever existed.  After all, I get about 2,000 posts a year from eHarmony so it would be easy to loose track of someone.  But, after the first few times, I have come to realize that eHarmony is doing something with these people.

Normally, if some one doesn’t like the match with me, they will simply close the account.  I, in turn, will get a notice that they have close their account with me.  I then close my account with them and we are both history.

But, for these mystery accounts, eHarmony doesn’t tell me that the account is “closed”.  Rather, they tell me that the account is “no longer available”.

This drives me crazy since I am never sure if the person has disappeared or if they never existed in the first place!  Maybe some day I will figure it out.