If her mother is still alive, then, you have another force to contend with.  In short, not only do have to please your girl friend, you also have to please her mother.  And, it is not one or the other, it is both.  That’s right, both.  So, be careful!!

Are her parents healthy?  This is  always a good question because if you are 60 and dating, her parents are going to be 80ish.  Which means that the health of her parents is going to be failing soon if it hasn’t already.

And since she is a daughter, she will feel the need to support her parents.  This is only natural.  But, understand, this is a package deal so don’t expect contrary behavior on her part.  She will need to do what she needs to do.

Enough said.

Well, one of the first things that you need to determine is whether the parents of your “significant other” (SO) are happily married.  This is important because it will tell you about the family values that your SO grew up with.

Did her parents resolve conflicts or did they just walk away?  It they stayed together and resolved conflicts, this is good because she saw her parents commitment to the  marriage.  But, if they just walked away, then she doesn’t have a role model for resolving  conflicts.  Which means, when the going gets rough, she may decide to leave rather then stay and work things out.

FWIW.

Unless your significant other is an orphan with no kids, you are going to have baggage.  There will be ex-spouses, children, spouses of children, children of children, parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, and cousins.

This is known as a family.  And, like it or not, it is a package deal.  They come with your significant other.  So, you need to be prepared for what ever lies ahead, like it or not.

Another area of concern is dental care.  If your date has “pearly white” teeth, chances are good that they are taking good care of their teeth.  But, if your dates teeth are a little off color, that might not be the case.  So, I often broach the topic of dental care.

For starters, I mention that I get my teeth whitened locally and it only costs me $200.00 initially and only $30 every 6 months.  If they are interested, great!  But, if they announce that they hate dentists,  then you may have a problem on your hands.

In a similar manor, I may mention that I have 5 crowns and absolutely love them.  If they volunteer information about their own dental work, great, at least you will know.  But, if they don’t, beware!  There may be major dental work waiting on the horizon

One of the major issues that needs to be reviewed is personal finances.  It can be a major shock to discover that your new bride is thousands of dollars in debt.  But, it can also be tricky to determine their debt load.

Now, if you ask them outright, they will tell you that their finances are just fine.  No one is going to admit that their finances are out of control.  So, the best that you can do is to listen to what they say and how they react. 

For instance, one woman told me that she liked using a certain credit card because it gave her cash back.  And this is fine.  But, when she then stated that at the end of the month she rolls the balance over on to another card, this should be a warning that things are not good. 

I often will make the statement that I am debt free.  If they respond that they are also debt free, this might be a good sign.  But, if they say that I am luck, or if they do not comment at all, this may be an indications of debt.  So, beware.

Unfortuantely, you won’t really know about their financial stability until after you are married.  Caveat Emptor.

Well, I have dated quite a few women over the last year.  And, for the most part, the women have all had a pleasant disposition.  However, I recently dated a  woman who was, well, an “in your face” type of gal.

It started when we first sat down in the restaurant.  Wanting to make her feel comfortable,  I told her to order anything that she wanted.  To which she accused me of trying to gain sexual favors in exchange for a meal.  After trying to reassure her that there were no strings attached to the meal, she announced that “all men are pigs”.  Well OK.

After the meal, I thought that I could just drop her off and say “Good night”.  But no.  The night was young and she wanted to go some place.  So I took her to a lounge that I knew about in the area.  That is when she got “in my face” about whether I can fix PCs.  This was followed by an “in my face” about whether I wanted to call her at home.

Finally, we called it a night.  I dropped her off at her car and she thanked me for the evening.

I was relieved that the night had finally ended.  If she was “in my face” this early on in a relationship, what  would a life time be like?

Another flavor of the sexual hangups that women experience is the mama generated.  For what ever reason, mothers seem to be able to generate sexual guilt trips in their daughters regardless of how old they are.

I find it to be extremely frustrating that a 60 year old woman can be totally controlled by her 85 year old mother.  And, you won’t realize this hangup until you begin to get intimate with the woman.  She will then announce that she doesn’t feel right about what ever you are doing.  And, unfortunately, there is nothing that you can do to change the way that she feels.  The only way to move beyond this is to marry her and hope for the best.

Caveat emptor.

No, this isn’t the title to a song from the 60s but it does present a very real question.  Not only do women need to ask that question but so do men.

Sometimes a woman will give into the passion of the moment and really enjoy herself.  But then, the next day, she will feel horrible guilty about what she did the night before.  The simplest way to prevent this from happening is to make sure you are both ready to be intimate and not just caught up in the passion of the moment.

Enough said.

It is not uncommon for a Juvenal  female to experience sexual encounters with older family members or trusted friends.

These older people, both male and female, feel that they are helping the young woman with some aspect of her sexual development by what they do to her.  But, in reality, they are not.  In fact, they actually cause more sexual hangups.

Now, this one is tricky.  She may tell you about her past sexual encounters but that is highly unlikely.  Chances are that you won’t discover her sexual hangups until after you are married.  Up until that time, she will pretend to enjoy your sexual request while all the time feeling dirty.

All you can do is to watch for subtle signs and go from there.