Unless you are into dating really young individuals, chances are there are going to be children involved with everyone that you are dating.  And, unless your date is estranged from his/her family, children are going to be a factor in the relationship.

So, your choices are limited.  Either accept the fact that there are children and make the best of it or stay single.

When, in a relationship, do you stop looking at others and just focus on the person you are presently dating?

Recently, that has been a hard call for me.  While I enjoy the person that I am presently dating, she always seems distant and only moderately interested in me.  So, I never know if she is going to dump me.  And because of this, I am reluctant to close down my dating web sites.  But, at some point in time, I am going to have to take a chance and commit.

Because of her age, a woman that I work with ends up dating men who still have minor children.  And, because of custody arrangements, he has them every other weekend.

Now, this custody arrangement upsets the woman because he spends time with his kids instead of her.  (Go figure)  And, even if he tries to include her in the activities that he has with his kids, that is not good enough because she has to adjust her schedule to meet his.

If you find yourself in this situation, cut your losses and move on.  His kids are a fact of life and her unwillingness to accept them won’t change.

For 40 years, I was madly in love with my wife.  I just can’t remember whether there was chemistry at first sight or if it developed over time.  And so, I struggle with whether chemistry is necessary in a relationship or if love will prevail over time?

When you first start to date someone, the relationship is neutral and undefined.   But since relationships are never static,  that neutral status only lasts for a few dates.  After that, one of three things will happen.

If things work out right, you will become romantically involved.  But, the more that you date someone without romance developing, the more likely it is that the two of you will just become friends.  And, if you fail to become romantic or friends, then the relationship will just end.

So, if you are looking for a loving relationship, it needs to happen in the first couple of dates.  If it doesn’t, then the romantic relationship is doomed.

I once dated a woman whose life was under the total control of her older sister.  Since the woman was 60, I speculate that at her age, she will never have a life of her own.  I passed on her.

Well, after she explained to me her fears of relationships and after I told her that I was interested in a serious relationship, she seemed to be reassured.  And so, I thought that the relationship would be moving forward.

And at first, it seemed like it was.  But, two dates later and she was back to being totally frigged.  So, even though I spent 8 hours with her today, the closest that I got to romance was holding her hand for 30 seconds.

And, even though she said that she liked holding hands, you couldn’t prove it by me.  She resisted all attempts for the remainder of the evening.  Then, when I took her home, I thought that she might invite me in, but she didn’t.  So, I gave her a quick kiss and headed for home.

I don’t think that she has a romantic bone in her body.  If she is cold and disinterested now, what would it be like if I married her.  Once again, I think that it is time to cut my losses and move on.

I just saw a picture the other day of a woman who claimed to be 52.  Well, that was hard to believe.  She looked to be at least 62 if not 72!  I guess if she is only 52, then she has had a very hard life.

Over the past year, I have dated a number of women with whom I have had chemistry.  But, unfortunately, we were simply not compatible.  And, I have dated a number of women who were highly compatible but there was no chemistry.  So, do you choose the one who you have the hots for or the one you can live with?

In her profile, one woman indicated that she likes to ride her bike.  In fact, she said that she even had a special trailer built so that she could haul her Sousaphone behind her bike.

Well OK!  I suppose the trailer is better than carrying it on her shoulders.

I think that I will pass on that one.