With the shopping date set, I picked her up at her house.  Since I had not so much as gotten a hug on the first date,  I decided to change that by giving her a hug and a kiss when I picked her up.  And, she seemed receptive to that.  Well OK, maybe I had miss judged her.

But, when we got to the mall, I thought that it would be nice to hold hands.  And, she tolerated that with the operative word being “tolerated”.   However, when the time was opportune, she broke the hand hold.  And, since she didn’t reestablish it, I assumed that she was not comfortable with it.

When I dropped her off at her house, there was no invite to go inside.  There was just a forced hug and kiss and then out of the car.   Well, OK, I guess she is not really interested in me.  And, I expected that the relationship was over.  And, I was ready to cut my loses and move on.

But then, two days later, I received a call from her, which totally blew me out of the water.

I recently dated a woman who was, well, frigged.  After a lack lust first date (no chemistry), I decided that it wasn’t going to happen.  So, the following weekend, I opted not to be with her.

The week after, I received an email from her telling me that she really enjoyed my company and hoped to see me again.  Since there was no chemistry and she seemed really distant, I was surprised at her interest.

Perhaps, she was tired on the first date or perhaps was not up to pare.  So, against my better judgement, I asked her out again to give her a second chance so to speak.  With a plan to go shopping together, the date was set.

I have dated several women whom I just couldn’t figure out.  They were nice enough and pleasant to be with.  Yet, they just didn’t seem to be “into” me.  And, a good night kiss was more of a chore for them than a desire.  So, are they just being modest or are they really not interested in romance?  I don’t know.

Most of the better dating sites offer the profile option of what you are looking for in a relationship.  For some women, they are only looking for friendship.  Others are looking for a traveling companion.  Still others are looking for a serious long term relationship.

Unfortunately, some sites like Christian Mingle do not offer that option.  So, if you don’t ask the person directly what they are looking for in a relationship, you may end up wasting your time on a relationship with diminished expectations.

There are some women who are not interested in a relationship.  Instead, they are only interested in a good time.  And trust me, if you’ve got the money, they’ve got the time.

A good indicator is whether they are affectionate or not.  If they seem to enjoy being with you but balk at more than a good night kiss, then chances are they are not interested in a relationship.  Instead, they are only interested in the good time and not you.

If, after the first couple of dates they seem to balk at kissing or hugging or holding hands, they are probably not really interested in you.  So, cut your loses and move on.

I recently read a profile where the woman said that she was looking for a man who was NOT looking for a good woman.

Well OK.  Does that mean that she is a BAD woman?

When a woman tells me that her husband cheated on her,  I am usually not surprised.  After all, everyone makes mistakes.  But, when a woman tells me that she divorced him because of his many AFFAIRS, it makes me wonder why he felt the need to seek out multiple women.

Was it an ego trip or was there some need that was not being met in the marriage?  And, while I realize that marital needs are not an excuse for infidelity, it is a warning sign that there may be unresolved issues with her.

So, keep your mind and your ears open.

What do you do with a drunk date?  That was a problem that I had encountered a few months ago.  Apparently my date had arrived in time for happy hour and was, well, quite happy when I arrived.

Food!  Get her food!  But, more to the point, this is a first date and first impressions are everything.  And her first impression???

While love is an emotion, it is also a verb.  And, because it is a verb, we decide whether or not to love someone.

If we choose to love someone, then there is a whole course of feelings and actions associated with that love.  And likewise, if we decide not to love someone, we withhold these feelings and actions.

So, to love or not to love, that is the question.

What do you do if you are dating a woman that you really like but there just isn’t any chemistry?  That is a problem that I have run into over the past few months.  I mean, these women are nice enough but there just isn’t that magic spark.

I try to remember back to when I first started dating my late wife.  Was there a spark or was it just physical attraction?  I can’t remember.  I do know that in time, I fell madly in love with her.  If I could answer this question, then my dating would be much simpler.