I am amazed at the number of women who sign up for a dating web site but only check it for activity a couple of times a month.  I get the impression that they are not all that interested.  Rather, they are doing it because someone has talked them into it.  Or, maybe they are afraid that they might actually find someone and then have to deal with a new relationship.  Who knows.  All I know is that I send a lot of email that never gets read.

I have reached that point in time where I am starting to suffer from dating burnout. When dating burnout occurs, you can no longer remember things about the person that you are with.  Do they have kids in the area?  Where do they work?  What church  do they attend?

When dating burnout occurs, you no longer have a quality date.  Instead, dating has become a chore that you do not enjoy.  So instead, it is best just to take a break until you feel that you are ready to try again.

The ex. of one woman that I dated was a control freak which is the reason that she divorced him.  But, since he lived in the same area as she did, I realized that he was not going to give up control.  In fact, he was going to continue to make her life miserable.  Which leads to the question of when do I step up to defend her and when do I just back off?

Everyone at some point in time will be faced with the same decisions.  It is best to think about them before they happen.

The ex, of the first woman that I dated, was gay so there was no real problem with hurt feelings on his part.  The ex of the second woman that I dated had died so there were no issues there.  But, after that, ex’s have been a factor in all of my relationships.

If I was fortunate, the ex moved out of state and remarried.  But, from time to time the ex’s live in the same area and still have an influence on my date’s life.  And  when this happens,  I have to determine just what I am going to deal with and to what extent.

The fun begins.

Every time that I get a new match on a dating web site, I always have optimistic expectations.  Yes, she is good looking, yes, we share similar interests, yes, yes, yes!  And each time, I think that this might be the one.  But, each time, I end up disappointed.   But, maybe the next time.  I can’t give up hope.

I am truly amazed at the lies that people will make on dating websites.  On many occasions, I have looked at a photo of a women who claims to be 52 when she actually looks to be 72.  If she is 52, then she has had a very hard life.  And, if she really is 72, does she really think that she looks 52?  Hello!

I am always amazed at the website names that some women choose for themselves.  Does 2fat4u really want you to think of her in that light?  And Poodlelady must like her poodles.

Maybe they think that these names are cute.  Who knows?  They certainly give me bad impressions.

One of the hardest issues that I have had to face while dating is mixed signals.  I have dated women who seemed to enjoy being with me and then dump me the next day.  Likewise, I have dated women who seemed to be bored out of their minds but tell me the next day that they really enjoyed being with me.

I have neither answer nor explanation.  All I can say is to roll with it and don’t take anything at face value.

Dating someone new around the holidays always presents a dilemma.  Or more to the point, who gets gifts?

Well, it is always a good idea to buy your date a gift at Christmas.  Even if you have just started dating.  There is nothing more embarrassing than your date of two weeks presenting you with a present and you have nothing to give in return.

So, always have something like earrings in your pocket.  If you never give them to her, at least you were prepared.

A woman, that I know, once told me that we couldn’t date because I lived too far away.  After all, she lived in Detroit and I lived in Grand Rapids.  Plus, she said that her church suggest that she wait a couple years before she started dating again.

Well, OK, that sounds reasonable.  But then, two months later, I find out that she started dating a married man in Chicago!

I assumed that he must have money.  That seems to be the universal “wild card” for all problems.