Some people form chemical bonds to their sex partner very easily while for others, it never happens.  I think that this is why some people are ready to live together after their first sexual encounter while others have no such desire even after multiple sexual encounters with the same person.

So, know your self and beware of the other person or you may end up with an unexpected house guest.

Scientific research seems to suggest that being sexually active with someone starts the chemical bonding process in the brain.  I believe this to be true.  So, you had best be sure that the relationship is going to work before you start the bonding process, other wise, you may discover that you are married to someone that you can’t stand.

After I had dated a woman a couple of times, she asked me about “casual sex.”

Well, OK, I guess I never thought that I would get asked that question.  I just figured that sex would happen if we both felt that it was right.  So, since I wasn’t feeling right about it at the time, I didn’t know quite what to say.

And, I didn’t know if she was in favor of it or opposed to it.  So, I took the safe route and said that if a couple is in a  committed relationship and it is agreeable then sex is OK.

Good answer I guess.

I recently had someone tell me that no woman would want to live in the same house that my late wife Kathy lived in.  In short, the house and everything in it needs to go.

Well, I disagree.  I guess if a woman has concerns about my house and my furnishings, she is also going to have concerns about me.  So, we may as well cut our losses and move on.

For some women, a widower is an asset.  After all, the marriage ended because of death and not divorce.  So that would seem to indicate that the  man has some redeemable qualities.  But, for other women, a widower is a liability because she has to compete with someone who only exists in the heart and mind of the widower.

So, liability or asset?  I guess it depends on the self esteem of the woman.

While most women will tell me there first name, getting their last name is some what difficult.  Part of the problem is that they forget to give it to me and I forget to ask them.  But then again, sometimes it doesn’t matter because there will not be a second date.

“Hi, I Am A Recovering Breast Cancer Survivor!”  Those were the first few words out of my recent dates mouth.  She then asked me if that bothered me?   I told her “no” even though I was over whelmed.

She seemed very nice, but since my late wife died of cancer, I wasn’t sure if I was ready to deal with this. But, I gave it my best shot.

She then went on to describe her breast reconstruction surgery. They took flesh from her stomach and not her back to rebuild her breasts.  But, I wasn’t sure if she had breasts with nipples or just fat bumps.  She didn’t say and I didn’t ask. (it was a first date after all)

At this point in time, I knew that I needed to ask her out again.  Other wise, I would seem like a hypocrite.  So I did but she stood me up.

Well, OK!!

Well, the holiday weekend has started.  For me it began at 5am this morning when my iPhone repeated announced the arrival of new mail.

The new mail was from all of the women who are taking advantage of the “free weekend” on the dating web sites.  Since they only have four days to find a man, they start early Friday morning with their correspondences and will continue until early Tuesday morning. It is kind of like the Thanksgiving weekend sales.

If this holiday is like the previous ones, I can expect to be contacted by about 30 prospective women over the next four days.  And, they will be frantic to find out as much as they can about me in this short period of time.

Of course, it will take me until Thanksgiving to do the cleanup on all of these contacts.  Then, it will start all over again.

Don’t complain about your job, your boss, your co-workers or any thing else to your date.  In short, don’t complain!  Dating is not about your problems in life, it is about your date.  And, unless you have been dating this person for several months, she probably doesn’t want to hear about it.