Don’t Be Cheap!!

There is nothing that turns a date off more than a cheap skate.  If you are going to take a date out for supper, allow her to order whatever she would like off of the menu.  If you can’t afford to do that, then maybe you should take her to a restaurant that you can afford.  But, DO NOT take her to a restaurant and tell her to keep it under $XX.  She will remember the meal but not in a positive way.

Chemistry Rediscovered.

All summer long, I have dated over a half dozen women but the interest just wasn’t there.  They were nice and all, but, something was missing.  It just didn’t seem like there was any chemistry.

I remembered chemistry from my past but it didn’t seem to be happening with these women.  Had I lost touch with reality?  Was it there but I no longer recognized it?

I was getting discouraged.  But then, I was introduced to a total stranger and suddenly, the magic reappeared.

Yes!! Chemistry is very much alive and real.  I don’t know if I will ever see this person again but at least I know that I have not been mistaken about the lack of chemistry with the other women.

 

Metro Cruise.

This weekend is the Metro Cruise in Grand Rapids.  Thousands of people with their classic cars and hot rods are flocking to the city to spend the next few days driving up and down 28th street.  Even as I sit on main street in Lowell, I can see the cars headed for the event.

This, of course, is one of  my concerns about any one who has a classic car or hot rod.  The only reason that any one would own one of these cars is so that they can show it off.  That means that if you are involved with one of these people, you can either plan on not seeing them on the weekends during the summer or traveling with them to the event.

Caveat emptor.

No Shows.

What to do with “no shows” is always the question.  I just experienced that.

Just because someone schedules a second date with you, doesn’t mean that they will actually show up for the date.  I have had many first dates not show up for a second date even though they said that they were interested.

So, I guess you just cut your losses and move on.

Sleepless In Seattle.

Sleepless in Seattle was a nice movie but it was not the real world.  Granted, there are couples who have sustained a long distance romance but those are the exceptions and not the norm.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I am still a hopeless romantic who believes that anything can happen.  But, I am also a Calvinist who believes that God has a plan for my life and that if it is meant to be, it will happen.  That means that God will make it happen and not me.  So, I will keep my eyes and ears open to God’s leading.

Embracing Loneliness.

I am a Calvinist so I believe that God has a plan for my life and that everything happens for a reason.  In short, there is no such thing as coincidence.

I am now living through a new aspect of my life called “loneliness”.  And, while I don’t really enjoy loneliness, it is now a part of my life so I do have to deal with it.  I can run from it and pretend that it doesn’t exist, but I can only do that for awhile.  Then the specter of loneliness will arise and try to consume me and it will if I let it.

But, instead, I will embrace loneliness.  I will spit in its face.  I will dine by myself in restaurants.  I will sit by myself in church and down front for all to see.  I will go to the movies by myself and order popcorn and a soft drink for one.

Yes, I am alone but I am not defeated by loneliness.  With God’s strength and grace, I will survive.

Sunday Is The Loneliest Day Of The Week.

Sunday is the loneliest day of the week for me.  It used to be that Sunday was the best day of the week for me.

The day used to start out with the two of us sleeping in.  Then, we would get up and have a leisurely breakfast while reading the paper.  After breakfast, we would head to church.  When we returned, we would have our Sunday dinner together.   Then, we would have our afternoon nap.  After nap, we would watch some TV and then get some supper.  Then, we would turn in early.

Now, I sleep in by myself, eat breakfast by my self, read the paper by myself, go to church by myself, have dinner by myself, nap by myself, eat supper by my self and then go to bed by myself.  But, I am learning to adjust.

Sorry, I Am Seeing Someone Right Now.

Sorry, I am seeing someone right now.  That is the response that I recently received from a new web match.  So, yesterday she was available but today she is not?  I don’t think so.  I suspect that she has been hedging her relationship.  That is, she is dating someone but looking for something better.

But, more to the point, most of these dating site have a provision to shut down matches temporarily should you find Mr/Ms right.  If they are keeping their site open even though they are seeing someone then they are just playing games.  Maybe that is why they are divorced in the first place.

“I Don’t Date Widowers.”

“I  don’t date widowers”  that is what one woman told me.  Why?  Because she would always feel like she was competing with my late wife.  And, how can you compete with someone who now only exists in my mind?

If I was divorced, then she would know that there were flaws in the marriage.  And then, she could compete with my ex.  But no ex equals no flaws.

Well, it is hard to argue with that kind of logic.

“I Love You” Means Nothing!

“I love you” means nothing!  Just because someone says these words doesn’t mean a thing.  They are just words and nothing else.

I once had a woman not only tell me that she loved me, she also told me that she believed that God wanted us to be together.  But then, a week later, she dumped me for no apparent reason.

I guess God changed His mind.  Either that or she was a psycho!!