While chemistry in a relationship can be a wonderful thing, it can also be dangerous.  Chemistry can cloud your judgement and lead you into a relationship that is not good for you or your partner.

It is chemistry that leads to adultery.  And, it is chemistry that leads to jealous fits or rage.  But, only when the shine on the penny fades do you realize your mistake and by then, it is too late.

You’re too good for me!  One woman told me that on our first date.  It seems that she had been married and divorced three times before.  So, the fact that I had never been divorced bothered her.  I guess she was intimidated by my marital success and afraid that she could never meet my expectations.  Sounds like she had low self esteem.

My father, God rest his soul, was not one for interfering in my life.  But, he did give me a piece of advice one time when I was in my late teens.  He said “Son, there are a lot of beautiful women in the world.  But, the trick is to find one that you can live with.”

At the time, it seemed like a nice remark but nothing more.  Now that I am much older and dating, I fully understand what he means.  And while I have met a lot of beautiful women, most of them are nuts.

At woman at work told me that she could never date any one who didn’t at least drive an Audi.   Well OK.  I love a woman with high standards.  NOT!!!

When I first started dating online, I was very naive.  I didn’t want to eliminate anyone because of distance.  After all, what if the person living in California was “the one” for me?

Well, as time went on, I eliminated anyone who was more than three hours away.  After all, if I couldn’t drive there in a reasonable amount of time, what kind of a relationship could we possible have?

But soon, that 3 hour drive was reduced to a two hour drive.  And then that two hour drive was reduced to a one hour drive.  Now, that one hour drive is reduced to the “local calling area”.

Sleepless in Seattle was a fun movie but had little to do with reality.  If you can’t find anyone closer than the west coast, then you need to see a therapist because you have some major hangups.

There is a single woman in my office that I have known for several years.  And, while she is attractive, I have had much interest in her because there was no chemistry between us.  But lately, that has changed.  And while I am not interested in her for compatibility reasons, there is suddenly interest regardless.  It is almost as if chemistry builds over time.  I wonder.

When you do online dating, you get a vast assortment of weirdos and wackos.  In many respects, it is like a circus side show.  But, had I not experienced it first hand, I would not have realized that there were that many dysfunctional people in the world.

Emotional commitment is vital to a relationship.  If one person in the relationship has not made any emotional commitments to the relationship then the relationship is doomed.  After all, a one sided relationship is not a relationship at all.  Rather, it is just one persons dreams being acted out and nothing more.

Well, it was only a matter of time before I ran across someone who was a right wing extremist.  And, this week was the week.

Before she would even consider going out with me, I had to reassure her that I was a Christian and a Republican.  When we met at the restaurant, she didn’t offer a hug or even a handshake.  “Cold”, I thought.

She didn’t like the fact that I worked for the State and was upset when I told her that I didn’t have time during the day to listen to Rush.  At that point in time, I could tell that this was going to be one of my worst dates.

When we got ready to leave the restaurant, I was going to walker her to her car.  But when we got to the door to leave, she bolted for her car like Nancy Pelosi was chasing her.

Well, OK!!  Once again I am grateful for parking lot surveillance cameras.  At least, I didn’t get maced.

Lately, I have been getting spam where the author claims to be well educated and multi-talented.  Not only did one individual claim to be a Neurobiologist and an Engineer and an Accountant and a Surgeon, he also studied metallurgy and conducting.

Now, this isn’t just an isolated incident.  I have been getting many of these.  And, they all  claim to have worked in Peru and Africa and are presently working for a major US corporation.

Now, I don’t know what this is all about but I suspect it is some sort of major scam. So, I just delete their entries from my blog.